Many researchers have speculated that we tend to go for members of the opposite sex who remind us of our parents. Some have even found that we tend to be attracted to those who remind us of ourselves either in terms of appearance or personality. Of course the similarity is not that great until it is very obvious.
Why do we need love? It is simply because we need to breed, we need to ensure the continuation of our species. Just google and you will soon realize that love is just another chemical addition to keep us reproducing.
Lust, attraction and attachment are generally the 3 stages of ‘love’ should be. It might be interesting to note that the one you lust not necessary the one you love. Things you desire might no be the things you need. Lust generally caused by sexual hormones after puberty that is telling your brain it is time to experience ‘love’.
Then, it is the attraction stage where 2 people want to know each other better. They want to make some bonding or a stronger bond. It is just like 2 ions that are attracted to each other because of the opposite charge but only some can form a bond. Others just feel that it is not right or something is missing. Couples at this stage too focus more on relationship and very often rational is missing for quite some time.
For a chemical reaction to occur, atoms/molecules need to possess the minimum energy and the correct orientation. Unfortunately, I had forgotten the third factor.
If only there is some strong bond, then it is time for the attachment stage. This is the stage where real love is coming in. after all the sudden rush in of emotions, things start to cool down. Normally, this is the stage where all the troubles and disagreement start to appear. Love normally started to fade away and attachment / what I believe in another word is ‘habit’ kicks in. you can see things crystal clear now.
There are a lot of chemicals racing around your brain and body when you're in love. Dopamine is thought to be the "pleasure chemical," producing a feeling of bliss. Norepinephrine is similar to adrenaline and produces the racing heart and excitement. Phenylethylamine makes us more alert, gives us a sense of well being and contentment .I do not know how many chemicals more are involved but oxytoxin is said to be part of the whole ‘network’ as well, the one responsible for mother/infant bonding and production of milk in females.
When all these hormones production start to cease, suddenly your partner has faults, he is not right for you anymore, and you don’t think you love him anymore etc. our body may be able to fix this by releasing some of these hormones (1 of them is oxytoxin) when you are having sex. So yeah, sex is important.
I by all mean NOT ENCOURAGING anyone having pre-marital sex or an unprotected one. DO NOT use the lame excuse such as ‘cheehou said so in his blog’ or ‘we should know each other better’. LAME LAME!
I think that is all for my entry on love. I might cover the déjà vu feelings and 'scent' later. Too much things to blog now. Hope all of you enjoyed reading this entry.
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