It all started with chatting again, this time with a girl.
She was getting kind of excited provoking me and out of sudden she went into some kind of berserk mode after I mentioned a friend of ours.
So, the issue was, people (boys to be exact) give pretty girl far too much better treatment compare to girls without pretty face aka normal girls.
And so she added,
“Pretty girls are everything, gorgeous, elegant, friendly etc etc.”
When I try to reassure that she do look gorgeous and pretty sometimes,
“I think the clothes is elegant not me, but pretty gal is always elegant no matter what.”
When I present my point of “Sometimes pretty girls do get some unfair advantage.”, here is what she said,
“Sometimes? Haha, perhaps every time pretty girls get more benefits, every time.”
So, her point was - in general pretty gals do get more benefits, advantages, more friends without being asked. It all happens naturally. She continued by calling that a fact.
So, I guess I can only say this is a sad, true and harsh reality.
From my perspective,
1. Guys that look only at outer appearance are superficial. One of my friends even put it this way, pretty girls are those pleasant to your eyes and they are meant to be kept that way. When it comes to relationship, boys still find the one they like/love to be gf. Those that don’t are definitely not serious with you.
2. When you see a guy only approach the pretty girl and abandon you, always be glad that you know their true colors early and they are not worth keeping as good friends. There aren’t many occasions where you can see right through a person skin.
3. Look at it the other way, pretty girls always have to deal with all sort of jerks that they are not interested but you are spared from all that. Trust me; it is no where near fun unless the girl enjoys that kind of attention.
4. Pretty girls do get the advantage of better first few impression but they are not angels.
After that chat, I asked another friend of mine, a boy this time about his opinion. Here are the privileges he managed to put in words for me.
“They can go clubbing without entrance fee compared to guys.”
“A pretty with nice body figure girl would get free transport for an outing fairly easy compare to a total opposite gal”
“However, what pretty girls get are only 'small benefit' eg; treat in meals, transport, accompany etc etc.”
I do see that those small benefits are magnified in eyes of those girls that are being left out. Of course, MOST of the time the benefits are small.
I don’t pick my passenger as long as they regardless of their gender don’t act weird in my car. Some people are weird though. We don’t get to pick our look or else everyone would look like Brad Pitt and Angelina.
I did come out with an analogy describing why pretty girls are getting all sorts of benefits.
Let’s imagine there are 100 steps between the boy and successfully courting the girl. A boy will have the thought of “if I were to do that for her, I will be 2 steps closer.”
Reality check- girls would have the thought of
“Well, he offered to do that.”
If there were 100 steps before, there are still 100 steps after the small benefit. Those that know what the boy is up to would probably never take up the offer in the first place but let us not touch on those girls that take advantage of the boy because they are prettier. Girls would probably say guys are the one to initiate it and I would say those guys are stu***. Refer reality check.
The golden rule is – never pamper a girl or anyone.
People forget and don’t appreciate what comes too easily.
To all guys,
Do not make it too obvious or you might lose more friends than you could possibly make. It takes a lot to make up one bad impression. And yes, people do judge you.
Second post inspired by a girl after the first one – confession.
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