“If you love those who love you, what credit is that to you? Even ‘sinners’ love those who love them. And if you do good to those who are good to you, what credit is that to you? Even “sinners’ do that. And if you lend to those from whom you expect repayment, what credit is that to you? Even ‘sinners’ lend to ‘sinners’, expecting to be repaid in full. But love you enemies, do good to them.”Luke 6:32-35
The other day I was talking about forgiveness with my friend and my friend pointed out that I was being could not be bothered with someone from my past instead of choosing to forgive him. Could not be bothered as in I carry on with my life and whatever happens to him and his life is none of my business, out of sight, out of mind. He then proceeds to convince me that I should TRULY let it go.
What does it mean to truly let it go? What does it mean to truly forgive? Forego your right to get even with someone when opportunity gives you the chance to do so to someone who hurt, offend and causes you so much pain at one point of your life? Do you have to go extra miles than that?
If you chose to forgive because your Father in heaven forgave you at the first place, does it mean you did that because you SHOULD forgive like your Father instead of you WANT to forgive? Is there a difference to you?
Then there is a fine line between to THINK that you forgave someone and you ACTUALLY did. How could you tell which is which? Where is the line again?
Luckily it takes me a lot to hate someone. Hate is a strong word. I have people telling me that they do not hate anyone, which I am, quite surprise to hear that and there are people who dislike so many people in their life. People annoy me from time to time but that is life. Sometimes it could be you are just having a bad day and sometimes people decided to be mean or they think they are being funny, unknown to them in expense of a “stab” on your chest.
It takes a lot of energy to hate someone and worse of all, it is not harming the person in any way at all unless the feeling further propels you to take action to get back at him. It is also hard to pretend that something never happened and forgiving is just so hard.
Where do you draw the line? Did you choose to love instead of seeking revenge? Did that make you feel that you are a little superior compared to others deep in your heart? When the person repeatedly took advantage of you, will you still be persistence and continuously choose to love him back?
We are constantly comparing ourselves with others in life, from the gadgets we have, academic results to our parents and basically just everything and suddenly we are not allowed to compare anymore when it comes to certain thing. If not, we are considered substandard and fall short of some prescribed new norm. Some people believe in doing more, pushing the boundary, edge and limit but that itself is a comparison.
Where is your line within the greyish area at the end of the day or you believed in lingering in the white extreme only?
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