The Rule and The Exception

I have been watching a lot of movies recently. He is just not that into you is surprisingly good for me, the way the movie conveys the no nonsense ultimate message – sometimes the guys are just not that into you so accept the harsh and cold reality instead of trying to deceive yourself. Control your impulses and keep looking. One day you will find a fine guy. Always look at yourself as the rule and not the exception.

There will be rules and signs telling you a guy or a girl is not interested in you. There will be always a friend of your friend though who is the exception but remember, you are the rule and not the exception. A friend of your friend is what people say to make you feel better anyway. We need fairy tales once in a while but the world is still a beautiful place without them.


As a boy, I do not mind sharing my insights of the happenings in a relationship especially if you are close to me and I think you can handle the truth. Sometimes I can tell if a boy just no longer interested in that girl from the way he treated her because I am a boy and I did those horrible things as well. It will be easy to tell if you are not close to me or I think you would not be able to handle the truth because I will be telling you stories of a friend of my friend because that is what a friend for when you are down. I would reassure that it will be okay but reality is I lied to you.

Guys are guys. It is that simple. I used a lion analogy once to illustrate my point. A lion will feed on the first piece of meat it sets sight on even if it is a human, if the lion left without foods for a period of time. It is a matter of time, some lions take three days and some took a week but eventually they will feed on human. It is the same for wild or the tamed lion. It is about instinct and survival and not self control anymore even if that human is the owner of the tamed lion who used to feed him with the best meat from the market each day for years. A lion (read boy) just do not care. I used it at the time to illustrate about desperado. You do not try to tempt a vegetarian cat with a fish anyway.


One of my friends has been visiting clubs recently and he is enjoying every moment of it before the guilt finally kicks in. It was fun for a little get away after the stressful finals and to get touchy and flirty with sexy girls, any straight guys would love that. Last night he told me he is back to hometown and stopped going clubbing for a while because he felt sorry for those girls. At least he is who I think he is and at least I made a correct company there. I would never expect him to enjoy taking advantage on possibly drunk bitches anyway.

I do not preach about a loving world. One of the things I told him other than to use protections is to bear in mind the ultimate rule of all – nothing is to be taken seriously in a club anyway. Any person regardless your gender that is, should be aware that it is a game down there. Yes it is, and whoever violated the rule is sure to be heartbroken. Sure, there would be exception but you are the rule.

There are things that I suggest you to do to get the experience and exposure and build some resistance and antibodies so that you have them when you need it later in life. Smoke but never gets addicted, drink but do not get drunk, gamble but do not lose your mind. Sometimes, some parents fail to see that and when their kids finally get to colleges and away from home; they have too much freedom to handle the temptation. They just drift away from the path they suppose to be in. So, when it is time to let go, let them grow in their own way. You are not able to protect them their whole life anyway and they will never going to be ready.

Let the ball gets rolling. They will in their own time and not yours.

I believe we have to learn some lessons the hard way as long as it is not my daughter and my daughter would be the exception to my this particular belief.