We sat at Nando, a simple dinner to celebrate his post-birthday. He wants to start a family next year, when he is 26. We were surprised at his thought and the fact that he is still single. Most were dating the same person for years before taking the big leap of soul union. Nonetheless, we are still supportive.
We agreed that he needs to get romantically involved with someone as soon as possible. We were exchanging ideas, everyone was contributing and we arrived to one conclusion, he needs to be less straight-from-the-shoulder, he needs to learn the art of courting in another way, the less outspoken way.
We were frank, telling him he should probably stop hitting on girls within the first five minutes he met them and making advances to every girl in a club. He was asking for girls’ opinions, the girls were telling him that he should be friends with girls before attempting to take a step further, that girls are into someone with personality. Note that they did not however define personality.
He retorted that everyone is seeing someone now, and that he needs to know their relationship status straight away instead of wasting his and her time, whether they are into working out the more-than-friends matter. He still thinks his to the point questioning someone whether they have a boyfriend is correct. He wants girls’ opinion but he is not listening.
Obviously he forgets girls need to get comfortable with him, girls need their rapport threshold met before he could transition into the sensitive details or questions. I told him probably half of the girls are really seeing someone and the other half are intimidated by his candid approach. The girls are imaginary involved with someone because they are evading the possibly unwanted attention from him in near future.
Everyone was perceived as attacking him; he took on the it-is-not-my-fault stance. He blurted his game was perfect. I was shocked, no one other than those trained in the Venusians art uses that term, and it was a term coined by the pickup community. A contradictory, if he knew and were trained in art of seduction, he would still not be single, not when he wants to tie the knot next year.
He displayed his confidence when he repeatedly mentioned that his game is perfect, which I counter appropriately, it is not perfect when he could not attract anyone, the evidence speaks louder than his opinion. He sighed but he told us he will roll his perfect game to prove us wrong.
I passed him some books the next day and he straightaway recognised the name David DeAngelo, the pickup guru who preached the cocky-and-funny method. I was dumbfounded. He inquired about my game plan; I have none, never a true follower of any method or finished reading any of those books I gave him.
He was attempting to show me some David’s video before I took my leave. I could only reason out he is overconfident, he fails to judge using the end result. There are methods all over, including those capable of deliver him results and those keep him deluded. He was ahead of others but now, he is in the state of stagnant because of his belief.
I was unloading my laundry and it suddenly hits me that he could ask in a subtle way without triggering the alarm.
“Omg! The way you smile is just like my ex. Anyway, we broke up because of the long distance. So tell me a little about this boyfriend of yours.”
She would probably reveal her availability then. I think I just found a way to dismantle and annihilate the chick’s surveillance system; it is all about going under the radar, dude.
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