I just couldn’t stop laughing the whole morning 2 days ago because someone actually confessed to one of my friend, a girl the night before and let us just forget about the outcomes. So, what is so funny about the whole incident? It is actually the sentence he used. Of course I am not revealing the line he used because he might just bump into this entry although I totally no idea who that boy is.
My first reaction was “that is definitely not a good line to confess your feelings to a girl” and “god help this boy”. I am not telling that I am very good at this subject but a bad confession might affect the outcome as well, not so?
Many boys are definitely nervous and excited when they are going to confess. Some lost their words, some lost their ability to think and some just freak out at those final moments.
I even saw a topic some time ago at a forum asking for ideas on how to confess to a girl. He was hoping to get some idea from all the sifu’s out there. Of course I have to admit some of the ideas given are good.
So, how do you confess your feelings to a girl?
Try something simple and common like (from a boy’s perspective)
“Would you be my girlfriend?” or “would you mind being together?” <--might work on some girls, definitely not all.
"I like you and want you to be my girlfriend" <-- this is a little pushy and doesn’t give the gal a choice according to my friend.
“You know, I know this is silly, but I think I felt special when I am with you, would you mind being together?” <-- 1 girl suggested drop the silly part, another one just said it wouldn’t work on her.
One fellow in the forum suggested below:
"Are you courting me?"
If no: "but I think I like you jor"
If yes: "I think I like you too"
I know those lines might seems similar, but the most important element is her feelings toward you. You might have the best line available but she might reject you because she just doesn’t feel the same for you.
I believe that if she likes you as well, it doesn’t matter which one you used.
I had never tested this theory of mine. I think if you hold a girl’s hand and she doesn’t give you that “what are you trying to do?” look, she feels the same for you too. Of course you need to know her quite well and have to be alone with her to do that. 2 girls actually agreed on this.
Some just totally skipped that confession part and go on to some body language like hold her hands or start with a kiss. Then, they are together. I think I will skip the confession part as well next time. It is so hard to please all the girls with just a single line! All of them have different requirement to fulfill. A boy must be sincere; a boy must tell what he likes about me, a boy must do this and do that and most people can’t define the ‘sincere’ they are looking for.
I still believe that those are the perfect confession they want, but imagine when they are having accelerated heart beats, showing the shy shy and a little reddish face; it really doesn’t matter whether what you say; they will eventually say yes.
From few girls’ perspective:
- Tell her what you like about her, as simple as possible.
- Make it sincere, don’t sound lame.
- Wait the right time (this is so true..)
- There is nothing such as the perfect confession (those words actually coming out from a girl).
- I don’t like a person who tries too hard. <-- A little abstract. If you need to try that hard, she just doesn’t like you.
- ASK her instead of making the choice for her (so, no “I want you to be my gf”)
- Don’t ask “would you be my gf” unless you are really sure she will accept.
- Actually girls really don’t mind what is in your confessions, as long as you are being yourself and honest to her<-- at last a girl that share the same view (first part) with me.
- I would feel damn touched if a guy can tell me everything, straight and simple doesn’t mean merely one sentence and just the real truth.
- Make sure you meant it.
Girls actually suggested using the following:
“There’s something I like about you”, (tell her what is it) “was wondering do u feel the same?” If yes, “maybe we can work this out? I want to give it a chance”
"Being with you is special. It makes me happy, different from any other person I’ve met. I treasure it, and I wish I can have this special moment forever.” <-- she even added that if a guy would ever said that to her, she will literally melts on the spot.
"I have liked you for a long time..." and add your own unique line.
"Hey, you know, I have liked you for a long time. You support me whenever I am in a tight spot. You stood by me every time through thick and thin. I like you for all the above."
At least I know 1 of my friends is still considering about doing it but the price to pay if it is not successful is just too great. Good luck bro!
Love is not a charity. You have feelings for someone doesn’t mean he/she should feel the same for you or be your gf/bf. Humans are constantly trying to get the best deal even when it comes to love. Money certainly can’t buy you love but it can get you a good bargain position.
Lastly, I would like to thank all the girls that share their views with me and do not blame me if you failed in your confession using one of the lines i posted.
I still stand firm on my belief that is - it doesn't really matter what you said as long as she likes you provided that it is not a very very very bad line.
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